Archive for December, 2009
Fear Series #3
I want to continue my fear series with something that many people may not even realize they have experienced.
Fear Of Success
Am I crazy? Would anyone actually fear success? Yes, some people do, and may not even realize it. Many people think there is no way they could fear success, and may even be pursuing it. What they may not realize is they may actually fear it more than they know.
How would you know if you were actually fearing success? Fear of success is usually characterized by things such as:
The best way to address this is to work on improving your self-esteem and realizing what changes will come about if you succeed. Do not let a fear of success keep you from your goals! You deserve to win, and you deserve to be successful in life. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Fear Series #2
To continue on my Fear series, I wanted to discuss yet another common fear, and how to deal with it:
Fear Of Rejection
Fear of rejection is an irrational fear the people will not accept you for who you are, what you believe, how you act, or what you think. This typically results in not doing anything due to a fear of rejection or disapproval.
There are common patterns exhibited by people that act out of a fear of rejection. Typically, this is seen in things such as people who act with little or no assertiveness. They will not speak up when their opinion differs. These people are the typical ‘yes men’, in the sense that they secretly dislike what some people say or do, yet they appear to agree with them in order to keep from ‘rocking the boat’.
How can this change? This is typically caused by a lack of self-esteem, having had a bad experience due to previous rejection, being insecure, or having a physical condition they believe makes them unattractive to others.
The best way to deal with this fear is to start building your self-esteem, identifying what may be causing this in your past, and beginning to voice your opinion.
I hope this helps a bit. This is obviously a more complex fear, but this is a starter guide to understanding that fear, and beginning to deal with it.
Fear Series #1
I would like to now begin a series of posts regarding fear. Fear can be crippling and damaging, or it can be helpful.
Today’s post: Fear of Failure
Fear of failure is one of the most common fears people have. I have noticed, many times, that people let this fear prevent them from succeeding. If you are always afraid to do something, simply because it could fail, you will never begin anything. This can become a bigger problem, by preventing you from ever having any success. You cannot succeed if you do not try, right? Here is a 3 step list to help combat that fear.
#1. There are ways to combat this fear. One way to combat the fear of failure is to begin your path through positive thinking and self-confidence, both of which I have discussed many times.
#2. Another step necessary to combat this fear is to take an action. The best way to accomplish this is to find something you wish to do, evaluate carefully what you want to do, what the risk may be, and the potential reward. If the risk seems relatively low, and the reward worth it, step out of your comfort zone and try it.
#3. Another step is to realize that no one is perfect – we WILL ALL FAIL at some point in time. The mere fact that we have failed does not in and of itself make us a failure. Giving up makes one a failure, however failing does not. Every successful person in history has failed at something at some point. The difference is that these people kept trying until they did succeed.
I hope this helps overcome your fear of failure. Stay tuned for more information about fears we all face!
Quick post
Just wanted to share this quick thought with you all -
“Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy.” ~Robert Anthony
