Have you ever heard someone use that phrase? “No one likes me – I don’t have any friends”. I have heard several people say this to me lately, in comments and in person, and I find it rather difficult to believe. Certainly, there may be some people who do not like us – we all experience that. However, if you feel like no one likes you, and you have a hard time finding friends, this can be a challenge to deal with. I think these tips below may help the next time you are in a social situation and need to “work the room”:

1. Find Common Ground
When you meet new people, the first thing you should do is try to find something you both have in common. You may be surprised at how both enjoying the same Italian restaurant can start a long conversation, which ultimately leads to long term friends. Bring up subjects with which you are familiar – it could be anything, including your career, your family, where you went to school, your favorite movie or music genre, your favorite sports team, and more. Once you have that common ground, you will both be a bit more comfortable, which will lead to further conversations about other topics.

2. Be Yourself
The old adage really is true – if you seem pretentious, awkward, or otherwise fake, no one will want to be around you. Just relax, and pretend as if you will never see or hear from the people again. If there is no pressure, you are more likely to be yourself and come across as cool, calm, and relaxed. Think about it – would you rather make conversation with someone who is uptight or someone who is casual?

3.Don’t Brag
Introducing yourself as a self made millionaire who travels the world and owns your own jet will not come across as cool – it will seem like bragging. I am always more impressed to meet someone and later learn from another source they are filthy rich rather than meet someone and have them tell me so immediately.

4. Don’t Be Shy
If you are in a social setting, just walk up to people and introduce yourself. I have even found that, if you are shy, you can greet someone by telling them that you are shy and are trying to get over that by introducing yourself to new people. This will ensure a much smoother introduction, and you may even make a friend.

I hope this helps, friends. Let me know in the comments what you think!

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